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Losing my Family - Gone so Quickly
I lost my family exactly one year ago next month - not to death. However, it feels the same way and just as bad. It is scary to think that all of your life you think you have a loving, caring family - bound by unseen arms of unconditional love. Then, in an instant, some hateful words exchanged, and 'poof' they are gone. I have spent the last year trying to 'deal' with this. I have prayed every night to my g'ma in Heaven that she would put love back into the hearts of my family for me, but to no avail. I kept thinking "Some day the damage done will fade and love will prevail". Now in the face of serious illness, I went to them again and asked for money to help me see a doctor who may give me options of what to do. All I have received is excuses and the occasional "I'm on the phone and will call you back" with, of course, no call back - no letter - no e-mail.........nothing. Just silence. Silence is actually louder than words of hate in a crisis. So, now, again, I feel like 'nothing'. I feel numb and that I am going through this loss all over again. So, I have come to realize that sometimes you have to cut people out of your life............backspace.........deleted. It is hard to lose your family, especially when they are still alive. I feel I have been thrown away - like a used tissue. I just wanted to share with all of you, however, these wonderful words I found that I feel EVERYONE should hear:
**Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints on your heart. To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart. Anger is only one letter short of danger. If someone betrays you once, it is his fault; if he betrays you twice, it is your fault. Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. He who loses money, loses much; he who loses a friend, loses much more; he who loses faith, loses ALL. Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Learn from the mistakes of others. You can't live long enough to make them all yourself..
There is no beginning or end. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift, that's why they call it the present.** (unknown)
Love one another, love your friends, love your family, be good to yourself and be true to your heart. Listen to your head. Keep on the right track, look both ways before crossing the street and, above all, don't lose faith.
Your Holiday Story....
We had all had those holidays which stand out in our memories. It may be a fabulous memory which makes us all warm and fuzzy inside, to be compared to every future memory and be measured by it. We all have those holiday memories we'd like to forget---like the year both my Mom and my Aunt felt they had to be the one cooking the turkey and my Mom's turkey imploded. (Seriously...it became a heap of bones and the meat sort of disintegrated)
As children we had ideas about sugar plums just as much as we anticipated the tooth fairy...probably more. Later in life as we married and somehow combined families, and our family traditions changed. We created new memories together. We have had that gift we thought was going to rock someone's world which turned out to be as exciting as a flat tire.
There are those of us that prayed, pleaded, and made deals with God (or whoever else was listening) to just this one time....get that one thing or to be able to give that one great thing which would change our relationship with someone.
Of course there are also those times when we all thought "What the heck was this person thinking" when we opened a gift which astounded us. An example of this was someone close to me, her mother-in-law gave her a retractable clothesline one year, a sink hair strainer the next, and it just went even further down hill after that. (I am not kidding) And yes, we try to remember holiday seasons are about giving, not receiving....but still "What the heck!"
"Home" for the Holidays?
Most of my life I've often wondered why Thanksgiving seemed to be for many families a trigger word for family dysfuction. Why individuals couldn't just let that disagreement with another family member go for one bloody day and enjoy some good food and conversation with more pleasant family members. I have to keep reminding my self that I'm pragmatic by nature and that is apparently unusual. I found an article with some helpful tips. Holidays are meant to be happy, joyous and life-affirming times.Dog Saves Family, Gets Second Chance
Evelyn Aguilar, of Beltsville, Md., had considered getting rid of her 6-year-old Doberman because he was too expensive to feed. But after Monster saved her family from a potentially deadly fire, Aguilar has proclaimed him a permanent resident.
"We got nine kids," she said.
Autism
Autism is a disorder of neural development that is characterized by impaired social interaction and communication, and by restricted and repetitive behavior. These signs all begin before a child is three years old. Autism involves many parts of the brain; how this occurs is not well understood.Adjustment disorder
In psychology, adjustment disorder (AD) is a classification of mental disorder that is a psychological response from an identifiable stressor or group of stressors that causes significant emotional or behavioral symptoms that does not meet criteria for more specific disorders. The condition is different from anxiety disorder which lacks the presence of a stressor, or post-traumatic stress disorder and acute stress disorder which usually are associated with a more intense stressor. Adjustment Disorders may also be acute or chronic, depending on whether it lasts more or less than six months.Tattoo or Not Too?
Tattoos have been around
since the 4th - 5th millenium BC!
They have made a huge comback
in the last decade. Decorating oneself
in tribute to a lost family member to
the nude girly biker decorations to
right of passage to gang membership
and now adding beautifying decor
to our already beautiful bodies.
Do you have a tattoo?
If so, where did you decorate yourself?
What is it a picture of?
My Job
I would like to start off with a Big Hug to anyone that has or had a family member with Alzheimer's disease (AD). I feel we all need to learn more about this outragous disease. So my first post will be just that a little education on the subject.Who Is the Disciplinarian in Your Family?
Couples are partners in crime, but when it comes to parenting they sometimes have to take on the roles of good cop/bad cop to keep their brood in line. If you and your spouse play opposing roles in dealing with your kids, you’re in good company, as it seems that someone has to lay down the law. No matter what your method of discipline, are you the disciplinarian in the family or is your partner?
Dumbo University
by Patrick J. Buchanan 11/20/2009 As George W. Bush famously asked, "Is our children learning?"
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