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Savvy Confessions: Should I Fess Up Now?

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should confess to a mistake she made at work.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should confess to a mistake she made at work. Do you have any advice for her?

I've recently started working at a new job, and a few days ago I realized I made a mistake on a project I've already submitted. The drafts were seen by my boss and by the client, and neither of them picked up the mistake, which is actually a bit odd. I know that once this project is released someone is bound to pick up on the mistake and the client will be really angry. I'm losing sleep over this, the mistake can't be rectified (it's been printed about 30,000 times) but I don't know if there's any point to coming clean because there's nothing anyone can do now. Should I wait until the mistake is noticed and then apologize profusely? I'm scared I'm going to lose my job over this and I hate thinking that because I really love my new job. I haven't told anyone about this, not even my partner, because unfortunately it's not the first time I've overlooked an important detail and I feel so embarrassed. I'm having a lot of problems in my personal life right now and my great new job has been the best part of my life for the last few weeks. I really don't want to mess that up too . . . if anyone has any advice I would really welcome it.

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Savvy Confessions: Help Me Stay Out of the Red!

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking how she might live it up on a small income without going into debt.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking how she might live it up on a small income without going into debt. Do you have any advice for her?

I finally found an apartment that I can afford and I'm moving out of my parents' house in about a month. I'm usually pretty good with money, if you look past the occasional dress buying, and have never been in the red. I'm scared that once I move out I will have to cut down on an already-minimal social life to avoid debt. I would like to be able to visit out-of-town friends once in a while and go on small trips and vacations, but how do I do it on a small income (I'm a college student) without ending up in debt?

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Savvy Confessions: My Friend Is Spending Money She Doesn't Have

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should give her friend a reality check.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should give her friend a reality check. Do you have any advice for her?

I'm not sure if I should bite my tongue in this situation but I'm a little worried about my friend. She's talking about buying the latest smartphones and she recently went on a trip to Vegas. Oh, yeah. She's also unemployed. I know that her parents don't give her any money, so she's probably just living off her savings or digging herself deeper into credit card debt. I'm wondering if I need to stage a money "intervention." Do I give her advice or should I just leave her to her spendthrift ways?

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Savvy Confessions: To Pay or Not to Pay

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should crash at her friend's for free.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should crash at her friend's for free. Do you have any advice for her?

I recently moved to a new city to job search. My friend offered her place for me to stay rent-free while I job search. I've been here for a month now and I've offered to pay for half the rent, but she insists that I don't. She's been so gracious to let me stay, and I do my best to try to cover costs where I can (groceries, buying her dinner, etc.) However, I still feel bad for not paying rent. While I really want to pay her part of the rent, it also really helps me cut costs not having to pay it since I'm still unemployed. Should I force her to take the rent or just tell her thank you for offering me her place to stay and pay it forward to her in the future?

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Savvy Confessions: Should I Drop My Cheap Friend?

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should drop a cheap friend.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking if she should drop a cheap friend. Do you have any advice for her?

I just made a new friend and I get along really well with her. Everything about her seems to be great, except she has this one flaw . . . I'm beginning to realize that she's quite stingy. She'll try to get away with not paying or she'll say she'll give them money later . . . and she doesn't! Is this a reason to break off a friendship? It's starting to get on my nerves.

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Savvy Confessions: Will My Job Be Affected If I Take Maternity Leave?

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking how her job will be affected if she takes maternity leave.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, asking how her job will be affected if she takes maternity leave. Do you have any advice for her?

I work in a very small office which includes myself, a nurse, an office assistant, and our program director. Before the holidays, the program director took on an additional position within the company, but at another clinic, which now has him out of our office about 50 percent of the time. At that time, there was one other person in the office with the same job as me, but she was fired a few weeks ago, so now, I fly solo a majority of the time until we can find someone to replace her. Two days before my six month review, I found out I am pregnant! My husband and I are SO EXCITED, and had planned on starting a family this year. Initially, when I interviewed for the position, I mentioned that my husband and I were hoping to begin a family soon as well. Now, I am terrified to tell my boss that I am pregnant! He is a really nice person, but saying that he does not handle stress well would be an understatement.

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Savvy Confessions: How Do I Deal With a Gossipy Office?

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, venting how much people gossip at her office.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, venting how much people gossip at her office. Do you have any advice for her?
I began a new job about 6 months ago and while I love what I do, I am having questions about whether or not the office that I am in is the right place for me.  My co-workers are always gossiping & involved in drama, while I prefer to have as little drama in my life as possible.  The office is very small, and only 6 people total work there, but I share a space with 2 of them. They are always instant messaging one another while we are all in the office, and they IM with the other people in our office. It is very uncomfortable, and I have a constant sense of anxiety & uneasiness.  My job is already stressful enough (I work in substance abuse treatment), and self-care is very important to avoid burnout, but I have actually left work early in the past because I was so uncomfortable.  It has gotten to a point where I sit at my desk with my head phones in, and just do my work without really talking to anyone.  In a way, I feel very isolated, but I also realize that I isolate myself for self-preservation.  I just don't know what to do.  My boss knows about the gossiping and the drama, and he is fed up with it too, but won't do anything about it.  He just keeps telling me that "they are on thin ice & better watch out."  It is very frustrating.  This position offers a lot of opportunity for personal advancement (outside of the company), and I have been told by a supervisor that if I can just stick it out for the full year, it would help me greatly with my future as a counselor.  I am just trying to figure out if it is worth it.  I was also told (by the same supervisor) that this is not the first time that this company has had issues like this with employees starting gossip, so I have very little hope that it will change.  Please help shed some light on this situation.

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Savvy Confessions: Friends Aren't Understanding About My Unemployment

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, venting about how her friends aren't being sensitive about her unemployment situation.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, venting about how her friends aren't being sensitive about her unemployment situation. Do you have any advice for her?

Most of my friends are employed and well, I'm not. It's taking a bit of a toll on me when I have to listen to them complain about something minor about their jobs. As of right now, I'd do anything to have a job. I don't know if I'm being a debbie downer, but their complaints kind of eat away at me and I try to be supportive to them, but it's getting to the point where I'm sick of hearing them. Am I overreacting or should they be more sensitive and not moan about their jobs?

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Savvy Confessions: I Just Had the Worst Interview

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, venting about the worst interview she ever had.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, venting about the worst interview she ever had. Do you have any words of encouragement for her?

So I just had the worst interview ever. The guy who interviewed me was knocking back whiskey at 4 pm like no other. And because I used to have job positions that are on the low-paying side (educator and nonprofit), my interviewer kept asking me if i was interested in money. Of course, I'm interested in money! He kept saying that I was used to working for less money, so he asked me how I would feel if they started paying me more money. At this rate, I'm beginning to regret even thinking of changing industries. I wanted to try another career path just to see if I like it, and of course, I'm looking forward to more pay. Maybe this interview is a sign that I should go back to what I was doing. What do you think?

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Savvy Confessions: How Do I Treat Ungrateful Friends?

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, wondering how she should treat her ungrateful friend.

This reader posted in our anonymous Savvy Confessions group, wondering how she should treat her ungrateful friend. Do you have any advice for her?

I'm the type of person who usually likes to help people out, particularly if it's job related or networking related. I have a "friend" who I initially got along really well and so I was open to helping her meet the right people to land her a job. I was able to introduce her to my old supervisor who needed another person to replace me and because of my referral, she was able to get the job. However, I noticed she never thanked me and ended up complaining to me about the work they gave her. After that incident, I noticed other instances where she was "using" me. How do I politely cut this person off without ruining our "civil" friendship? Is this something I should confront her about or just leave it and distance myself from her?

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