I don't find it tacky at all! My husband and I did it. If I recall correctly, if you don't include registry info in your invite your wedding party is supposed to casually pass the info along to your guests. However, I find that beating around the bush and would probably prove to be rather difficult. Including the info in the invite is more effective and less of a hassle. why not kill 2 birds with 1 stone?

Oh and not to mention, a lot of guests don't know what to get the couple, so having a registry not only ensures that the couple get what they want, but also helps guests decide what to get them. However, even though my husband and I had a registry, we still got some items not listed (mostly hideous, but oh well... we're still grateful!)

I wish I could vote on this 50 times. It is incredibly tacky. And it's unnecessary: These days it's so easy to find out where people are registered. Plus, you're not required to give a gift from the registry anyway.

Every time I get an invitation with a note about the registry in it, I am tempted to buy them something from another store.

I agree, it's tacky. Most couples register at one of the big stores, like Target, Linens N Things, Bed Bath and Beyond, so it's easy to find their information. Also, as a guest I have no qualms about picking up the phone and asking the bride or groom.

definitely tacky.

Any kind of gift solicitation is tacky, no exceptions.

Totally tacky. The last time I received an invitation telling me what to buy for somebody (a baby shower, the invitation instructed "brand x diapers" only!!), I didn't buy anything.

It's tacky and annoying.

I feel it is sort of tacky. As valancyjane mentioned, it is pretty easy these days to figure out where people are registered.

However, to each his own!

I don't think it's horrible, but that's just me. I think it's stupid to get offended by people trying to make things easier. We've all gotten horrible gifts so I don't understand why trying to help people figure out what you want. It may be easy for us young people to figure out where a couple is registered or what kind of things people like these days but I'll tell you finding things on-line or anything it hard for my grandparents. They appreciate the help.

I don't think it's tacky but like valancyjane said it makes me want to get them something from another store other than the one the couple registered to.

A year ago, my sister went to a wedding where the couple made note to the guests that they were saving to buy a house and were accepting monetary gifts of any amount to put towards what they had already saved. She didn't think it was a big deal so she gifted them with $200 cash and a home depot gift certificate for $100. If I recall, my sister mentioned that the couple received a bit over $12,000.

TACKY! you can include this info in your SHOWER invites, but NOT in or with the actual invitation....i always cringe when we get one of these....like valancyjane mentioned...its very easy to search online

TACKY! Heard of weddingchannel.com? It's so easy to find out where someone is registered ... and if you can't find it, then you can call and ask someone who knows. Tacky.

And this: "and were accepting monetary gifts of any amount to put towards what they had already saved" is EXTREMELY tacky. You do not ask for money.

Super tacky. That's what moms and bridesmaids are for.

Tacky for sure. There are so many other ways to get out registry information. Shower invites, word of mouth, and the internet all work well.

People have some strong views on this. It's okay, as long as it's not continually forced down my throat at every opportunity.

I always see that information in bridal shower invites, not wedding invites.

Definitely tacky. Put it on the wedding website, or have the parents spread the news. I mean, if you're invited to the wedding, chance are you are close with someone involved -- be it the bride/groom, or the parents of the bride or groom, so ask them -- nobody is offended if you call up and ask where the couple is registered. While 99% of people do chose to give a gift at showers, engagement parties, weddings, etc., gift giving is always OPTIONAL at these events, and including registry information makes the couple or the host of the event look greedy for throwing it out there as a "don't forget to buy a gift from one of these stores!" reminder.

Tacky and ruuuuude! However, I didn't include that info on my invite (we set up a wedding web site with directions, hotel info, pictures, where we were registered, etc.) and my husband & I didn't get many gifts at all. But we also didn't have a "normal" wedding.

Whatever, I still think it's tacky. It's even worse to ask for cash for a down payment on a house.

I know lots of people who have done it, but personally I think it's tacky. My husband wanted to include our registry info, but I insisted on going the traditional route of just telling a couple gossipy female relatives where you're registered, and letting people ask YOU. You invite people to share your special day, not to buy you stuff! If they do, that's fabulous, but they shouldn't feel obligated to, especially something specific from a specific store.

SO TACKY! you're asking for gifts. good god. so so so so so tacky! who raised the people who do this, anyway? if i saw this, i would buy them something elsewhere for sure!

I'm not trying to start anything here, but for those people who said they would purposely buy something that's not on the couple's registry if they include the info with their wedding invite... don't you think that's being sort of spiteful and immature? Just because you find it tacky obviously doesn't mean they do. It's the bride and groom's day, not yours. Regardless, the bride and groom should be thankful for any gifts they receive, on the registry or not. My husband and I surely were :]

SUPER TACKY. When I get registry information in a wedding invite it makes me feel like not attending the wedding. I hate solicitations for money even more. You do not ask for gifts and money ever. Most of the people closest to me know that I will probably never buy anything off their registry anyway, I am known for my cool gifts. One of my really good friends told her MOH I am opening Cubadog's gift first because I know it will be the best thing we get and it was!

Tacky!!! It's so easy these days to do a quick search of all the major places that people register online. You should never put that information in a formal invitation. It's SUPER TACKY when someone asks for cash.

I never really gave this much thought before, but I can totally see both sides. On one side offering registry information with the invitation is helpful, like Renees3 said, grandparents, especially, appreciate the help and on the other side it is tacky. It can be tacky because you are essentially asking for a gift and not just the presence of someone at the event.

I just got a registry notification in a save the date card... is that tacky or what?

(I also just got the most beautiful save the date magnet from a girl I know - it's perfect, I love that I'll see it and think of her whenever I see it!)

Against wedding registries in general!!! People need way less stuff than they want to believe.

Very tacky. Sounds like you are inviting people and expect gifts. Gifts are obligatory and the impression you would want to give is that regardless of gifts you want them to be present at your wedding. I also find it really frustrating when people tell me that my gift should equal the value of the plate...is this seriously acceptable? I thought I was supposed to give what I could afford and what was thoughtful not by cost!!

"It's the bride and groom's day, not yours"

Just because it's the bride and groom's day doesn't mean they get to act however they please. That is exactly what is wrong with the circus that weddings have become. Decorum and etiquette do not go out the window simply because you want matching linens.

Well said facin8me! I 100% agree.

""It's the bride and groom's day, not yours"

"Just because it's the bride and groom's day doesn't mean they get to act however they please. That is exactly what is wrong with the circus that weddings have become. Decorum and etiquette do not go out the window simply because you want matching linens.""

Not to speak for sonya ina, but I didn't get from her comment that she is condoning brides & grooms to act however they please! Choosing what include with an invitation is personal choice. If you as an invitee do not like it, fine, who cares!

As Sonya said:
"Regardless, the bride and groom should be thankful for any gifts they receive, on the registry or not. My husband and I surely were :]"

"Choosing what include with an invitation is personal choice."

You're right. People can put whatever they want on their invitation. But just because somebody somewhere puts registry info on their invitation doesn't make it acceptable. A wedding is about a marriage, not about cutting boards and down comforters.

And frankly, if you call gifts "hideous," it makes it hard to believe that you're grateful for those gifts.

I can certainly be grateful for something I think is hideous. My husband and I hold it near and dear to our heart because of who gave it to us, not because of what it looks like.

And thanks amybdk, that is what I meant :]

I definitely don't condone a bride and groom to act however they please because it's their wedding, especially if it's badly. People just need to remember to stop butting their noses into a couple's wedding decisions. Ultimately a bride and groom can do whatever they want, and your opinion doesn't matter unless of course you are the one paying for the wedding or they ask you for it. I guess that's why there's an RSVP card.

I have to say 2 things, 1 is including the registry with the invitation is tacky because you shouldn't expect presents. However I'm finding that with my wedding its hard to find a way to say what we are looking for (money) without someone getting offended. After living together for a while now we have everything we need/want for the apartment (however we are trying to save for a honeymoon and down payment) and honestly we'd rather have nothing then some crappy china set we'll never use(especially hard is some family is in OK and then we'd have china we won't use AND have to pay for the privilege to ship it home). I wish there was some way to say what we wanted without offending everyone. Best I found was wishing wells but still not perfect.

My mother would die if I included registry information in my wedding invitations. My grandmother would rise from the grave and die AGAIN. It's too tacky to even talk about. Seriously, who is DOING this? Who is perpetuating the idea that this is even sort of okay? It's not. Tacky, low-rent and gauche.

Extremely tacky -- it's soliciting gifts - what could be tackier? People found out where we were registered through our families and our wedding website (which also had directions, hotel info, etc). Sonya is probably right that it's immature to not buy from a registry just because you're annoyed that the info was in the invitation -- usually I am annoyed but still buy from the registry.

When I got married, I included a card saying that they could log onto our wedding channel website to meet the bridal party, find out details about the big day, etc. That website also had a page for our registry and when our wedding rolled around, we got everything from our registry, and we never had to include cards that made everyone feel like we were asking for anything.

"My mother would die if I included registry information in my wedding invitations. My grandmother would rise from the grave and die AGAIN. It's too tacky to even talk about."

I love this comment! I'm going to use "It's too tacky to even talk about" in a conversation today, I just know it. Thanks for making me laugh at work, erinridgeway!

Happy to be of service, estella241!

"My grandmother would rise from the grave and die AGAIN." - HAHAHHAHAHA!!! Love it. Don't love registries in general. And putting the little slips into the invitation? Tack-tastic.

It's so easy to find out where someone's registered. Most people register at Macy's, Bed Bath and Beyond, Target, Williams Sonoma, Crate and Barrel, Bloomingdales, JC Penney. You can easily search online at these stores' websites to find out where they're registered. Most likely you won't have to go to too many websites before you find one store that works, since most couples register at two or three stores. Plus you have the parents and the bridal party to spread the word. And if you have a website (and you should, lots of wedding planning websites do them for free and they're simple!) it's perfectly acceptable to post your registry info there. There are so many ways for people to find out where you're registered, there's absolutely no need for you to put those little cards in your invitation. They just scream: Sure you can come to our wedding, but we expect presents!! That's not only tacky, that's selfish. Having your loved ones at your wedding should be gift enough. Telling people up front that they're expected to bring gifts, too, is obnoxious and selfish. Look: your guests will assume you're registered somewhere, and go looking around for it. Or ask around about it. You don't need to shove it in their face to get gifts.

Every wedding book/magazine/website in the world comments on this and they all say the same thing -- don't put the registry info on your invitation. Tons of people one this comment board already indicated that a guest can do an online search, ask a bridesmaid/mom, or the info can be posted on a wedding website for the couple. So obviously, it's not too hard for the guests to find the info!

As for whether registries are a bad idea or not -- honestly, planning a wedding is a whole lot less about the bride/groom than most people realize. Both my fiance and I come from families that honestly would not listen if we asked for no gifts. We'd get stuff regardless. So, we tried to register only for things we actually needed and to keep the "stuff" to a minimum...

I have no problem with registering. I mean, you don't want a ton of dishes that don't match or towels in colors that don't go together. However, like I said earlier, I disagree with including the information on an invitation.

I'd just like to add that I agree including registry info directly ON the invitation is VERY tacky. However, I don't feel that including the information in the invitation packet is tacky. But that's just me :]

I equate "on the invitation" with "in the invitation packet." etiquette rules are settled on this issue, as other posters have said.

My fiance and I had little business cards made up to put in with the invitation that directed people to our wedding website, gave them the guest password, and included a short list of things you might find there. I think it actually read, "Directions, Hotels, Flights, Weather Forecast, Registry Info". I wanted people to know it was there if they wanted to look for it, but I would have never listed the stores on anything in the invitation.

Good idea, fuchsia. It's not like it just directed them to a list of stores.

As to whether the desire to buy something not on the couple's registry is spiteful and immature: Sure it is. That's why I don't go through with my desire. But I think it's also immature to ignore the way your actions can make people feel.

If something in the invitation packet (or on the wedding Web site, but I think I'm in the minority on that point) tells me what the couple wants (whether it's money or gifts from a certain store, I feel obligated. And that's not OK.

As my mom said to me once: Formal means following a form. If you're having a really nontraditional wedding, I can forgive you some etiquette lapses. But if you're sending out printed invitations, getting all gussied up in the white dress and tux, having a dinner dance, etc., etc., then you're being formal. You don't get to pick and choose.

Tacky for reasons everyone else has said. Brides and grooms would benefit from remembering they are the hosts for the day and need to make their guests comfortable. I was once invited to a wedding that not only had the registry info for several stores in the invitation, they also directed everyone to only wear a certain color.

I understand having black tie, evening attire, etc. But not "everyone must wear the color blue." They even required that women wear T-length dresses.

Glad to get that off my chest.