My fiancé and I are trying to set our wedding guest list in stone, but we're having a hard time — the list keeps growing! We want our wedding to be as intimate as possible, not only for atmosphere, but for cost purposes too. While we'd like all our friends and family there, we don't want to break the bank. I know every couple has different circumstances, but do you have any general tips on how to prevent the costs from multiplying without having cutting our guest list in half and potentially hurt people's feelings?
Hate to Be Cut Throat Tammie
To see what a savvy bride has to say about this, keep reading after the jump.
Savvy bride says:
The first thing you need to remember when creating your guest list is that it's your day — you and your fiancé are entitled to invite or not invite anyone you want. Yes, there could be some social ramifications around your decision making, but if you want your wedding be intimate, you're going to have to pick and choose.
A great way to relieve some of the pressure is to go with a venue that has an occupancy limit — having a size constraint will force you to be firm with your invites. You could also make your wedding adults only (that way you don't have to count babysitters as guests) or simply keep it immediate family and wedding party. Brides and grooms have different opinions when it comes to inviting guests with a plus one (some say no ring, no bring), so set a standard as a team and stick with it so you can be fair to everyone without burning bridges. Food, alcohol, decor, and entertainment certainly jack up the price at any wedding, so if you care more about the number of attendees, tighten your budget on everything else. If these measures still don't help, a destination wedding is a sure fire way to whittle down your list without even trying!
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