Sounds like fair game to me!
I think my wedding is going to be somewhere far though...like the Dominican haha!

Whoo who!
Finally, an update!

Did someone go on vacation and we didn't get the memo?

Not really sure how you would fit that into a normal conversation. I think some one would be a little psycho if they just started quizing me on their life. If you don't want me to go to your wedding, just don't invite me. Don't give me a quiz to see if I can go or not!

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Who me cat1121?

The only problem with this set of questions is that it doesn't account for family members... I'm sure that some of my aunts, uncles, and first cousins wouldn't score well, but I still have to invite them and they are a HUGE chunk of my guest list.

ditto kimba and Estelle- someone suggested for our wedding one simple thought (aside from the obligatory family)- Have you seen and/or talked to them as regularly as possible in the last 6months? That really did it for deciding on quite a few people that were on our "B-list".

thats dumb. why would anyone know your last 2 bfs and why you broke up? unless you tell every single person you know all the details of your life you can expect maybe 3 of your closest friends to pass this quiz.

Ha. I don't think my boyfriend even knows the name of the firm I work at. If we get married, he might not make the cut.

I don't understand why people invite everyone who ever laid eyes on them to their weddings. If they don't know your fiancee's name, are you only inviting them to get a gift or something?

lol @ javsmav, i was thinking the same thing!!

javsmav, haha!

while i think this is interesting advice, it only really applies to your friends. there's family, and couples often invite some of their parents' friends, who sure as hell don't know most of this information.

I don't think they actually meant to call and ASK everyone these questions... just to think to yourself if YOU think they COULD answer them. I think I'd know in general if the people in my life could answer those questions.

I thought this was an excellent idea. I have a lot of friends that I've grown a bit distant with, and this would help sort out who would get invited without me feeling like I'm playing favorites.

I wouldn't use this because only one person would pass. I recently got married and we only invited close friends and family. No one from work, no friend of a friend. Only people would were supportive of our relationship throughout the years we dated and were really happy for us hell we didn't even invite my husband step-mom and that was his decision.

I dunno.

I kinda feel like if *you* think you need to quiz certain people, then maybe you should just make the determination that they will not be invited. Otherwise, invite whomever you choose, according to your own dictates.

And, just for the record, I think that ANY bride or groom who feels it is appropriate to ask others these questions must also be able to answer these questions for any person they ask -- otherwise, it presents itself as self-centered, self-obsessed and hypocritical.

Also -- just for fun -- if the bride and groom cannot score above fifty percent, then the invited party need not offer a wedding gift. If the couple can only score between fifty and sixty percent correct, then the invited person can offer a hand-me-down item in lieu of a brand new item.

Relationships should never be a one-way avenue. An upcoming wedding is not a reasonable excuse to expect far greater from all others than you are willing to give toward them.

But that's just my opinion.

My friends would all do very well.

My family, however, wouldn't do so well. Aside from my parents and grandparents, they certainly would not be able to name my closest friends, my past employer, my hobbies, or the names of any of my ex-boyfriends. I wish this meant I could go back and un-invite some family (both mine and his) that showed up at the wedding, haha.

Oh lordy, I'm sending this to my nosey relatives this instant. Guest list has been the biggest headache EVER. People don't seem to understand the concept of a small wedding...

nah.. bad idea

I gave up on trimming our guest list from our parents, and believe me, NONE of them would be able to answer any of these questions. As for who FH and I are inviting, I told him if we haven't talked to them within the last year we probably shouldn't invite them (with a few noted exceptions).

I wanted to have 2 guest lists & invite sets, 1 for the ceremony and 1 for the dance (our ceremony site holds 1/2 the people the dance site does), but both families said this would be a HUGE atrocity and everyone would be offended, so I caved in. I printed and assembled 200 invites: 50 for us, 75 for each Mom and gave them the files to print more if they wanted. Obviously they didn't care whether we have enough seats and/or food and I don't have the energy to argue. Needless to say, we're not doing an RSVP. AHH!!!

I think the best way to trim the list is to put a limit on people you haven't seen in X amount of time, with certain exceptions for out of town relatives and stuff. The quiz is kinda dumb, I don't think my brothers could even score an invite.

I clicked the link.

The following is a quote, directly from her short article: ((emphasis added by nonny))

"If you score barely over 50 percent, you are on the waiting list. If someone who scored better than you cannot attend, you might get an invitation. **This barely acceptable person who might be invited may get you a great gift because of their guilt for scoring so low.**"

Exactly as I imagined.

This article was written by a greedy materialistic self-absorbed scab.

Urgh, no...I would never, ever do something like this! Yech.

Sooooo what's do you do? Send this questionnaire to everyone on your potential guest list and then grade them, awarding them with a coveted invite to my wedding? Puhlease. I'll invite who I want and leave it at that. If they don't know how old I am, I'll like them even more!

I agree cat121 I have been waiting on an update myself. I missed out on a post though cuz I saw this somewhere else, but didn't post it.
I would void out some of the questions, but I may use it especially if my fiance's list gets to long.

j/k Iwould use it for both our list.

I am happy there is an update on the wedding site too!

i dont think you'd actually have to ask, its just a matter of whether or not a person would know
i mean, lots of my parents friends wouldnt know these things, and as a result, i dont feel close enough to have them come

Just turn it around. Ask yourself questions about the people you want to invite. If you don't know that about them then chances are they are lower on the list in determining whom to invite. Well, that or you're a crappy friend in which case they wouldn't be surprised if you failed to invite them anyway.

I'm getting ready to send out wedding invites at the end of this month. I think this is a terrible idea for many reasons already stated. I would never "quiz" people I potentially want to invite. Self absorbed and materialistic are the two of the terms I read in the other responses that I really agree with.

I agree with the people who said they could never work this in! I would feel so self-absorbed quizzing people, I'd never be comfortable bringing this up! ("Oh enough about me, let's talk about you... what do *you* think of me?") Yikes. I think I'd just stick to my gut.

This is ridiculous, and stupid.

I've devised an easy way to figure out which of my friends will be invited. I have a large group of friends, but because of distance, work schedules, kids, etc. sometimes months go by before we see each other again. I've found that if I run into these people I do the following: 1) Do we immediately get into an involved conversation? If we do, great, that connection is still there and I want you at my wedding. Awkward small talk however means that you won't be invited. 2) During conversation the topic of the wedding naturally comes up. I try not to force my wedding onto people, some just really don't care. 3) You see genuinely excited about the wedding. If they are just like, "yeah, that's nice", then they probably won't be invited. But if they act like my friend did on the phone yesterday and get giddy over the news of the wedding, then you're invited. I think my plan has worked very well so far. I'm well within my guest list constraints.

i LOVE this. my fiance and i are in the midst of planning our wedding so we're working to put together our guest list. in my mind i was thinking that we would have like 20 people there for a VERY SMALL thing - but now it's like we have around 100 if not more. i think that there are a lot of people that we can and will cut from the list - but it's hard cause you don't want to offend anyone. these are great questions to ask yourself - or your friends to see who should stay on the cut down really tight knit list.

This is the stupidest thing I've heard regarding weddings in a LONG time. If you DO NOT know if a person should be on your guest list, EXCLUDE them. Jeez, people spend way too much time planning a few hours.