I have a little sister who works at a big law firm, she's 22 and still in college and she gets frustrated because there is a coworker there who judges everything she wears. I feel for her b/c she's never really been into the whole what your wearing thing. It has made her extremely self conscious. I can't imagine anyone judging someone for what they eat, that's horrible!

YES. I get asbolutely disgusted by the majority of my coworkers who go get fast food every day and grab junk food from the snack bar. It's a really gross way to live and it tells me they don't care about their health and appearance the way they should. We're in the MILITARY. Grab some veggies, fatties!

I wouldn't say "judge," but smelly foods and noisy foods are annoying.

I try not to, since I'm guilty of having dessert (and only dessert) for lunch on really stressful days.

No, I have better things to pay attention to. Now if something smells and looks good --I may inquire but uusally, I warm or grab and go.

the only thing that bothers me is the smell of cooked onions and peppers. I can even handle heavy curry. Although I will admit, when I see someone with a greasy 5 Guys fry bag i always think to myself 1. i am jealous cause I want some and can't have any and 2. they are unhealthy lol.

I don't judge my coworkers for having loud or smelly foods, but I totally judge them for getting unhealthy foods, especially if they tell me they're trying to eat healthy. So many of my coworkers complain about that and then eat junk food, drink soda, or even get silly extras ("ohhh I want to lose weight so I'll get a salad... and load it with cheese and dressing"). To me, that just indicates that they are a) not dedicated to their goals and b) kind of stupid.

It seems I am the one that gets judged. I always eat healthy and co-workers order out EVERY day. I hate eating with them, my food seems to be a popular topic of conversation and it really irritates me. I know they're probably just jealous they don't have the self control that I do. Still, it makes me self conscious.

juliefischer, i totally know what you mean. Luckily at my office right now everyone eats really healthily so when I come in with a pile of veggies everyone goes "mmmmmmm" not "is that ALL youre eating? are you on a diet? lets pick apart your lunch" but ive definitely been there and not only is it annoying but it makes it so much harder to eat healthily and exercise self-control!

I get judged a lot for my eating. Since I struggled greatly with my weight and worked hard to control it, I don't partake of sugary, fatty foods like my co-workers. I also am a vegetarian so they find it weird when I don't eat something unless I know what is in it. I know how it feels so I try not to judge but I admit it is hard when a person walks in with "super sized" fast food and a coke. I just think "gross".

I couldn't care less about what my coworkers eat.

"grab some veggies, fatties!"

Really? Could you be anymore rude and obnoxious? I'm human like everyone else, which means I'll think maybe she shouldn't be eating that from time to time. But clearly you take it to an extreme. I find myself feeling thankful that I have more self-control than to pig-out on fast food, but I don't ever view my peers as disgusting, or look down on them from some pedestal because of their choices. Give me a break.

I COULD be more rude, actually! It IS digusting, it IS a lack of self control, and they ARE fatties (I repeat- in the military!!). They need a reality check, so I tell it like it is... it's pathetic.

I don't care... as long as they clean up after themselves. Pet peeve: disgusting microwaves...

I don't care so much what my coworkers eat (at the restaurant I work at, the food is great, so that's what most of us indulge in -- at the chemistry lab, I maintain a diet similar to that of my coworkers: coffee!), but I'm sooooo judgemental to strangers in the supermarket.

Every time I go grocery shopping, I peek in the carts of passerby's and judging them on their purchases. Whenever I see a fat person with bags of chip or candy or pop, I can't help but think, "Well, no mystery how you got so obese!".

And when I'm serving tables, and some grotesquely 300lb person orders a 5th pepsi from me, it takes all the self restraint I have not to question, "SERIOUSLY?!".

I'm with foxie, seeing unhealthy people make further unhealthy choices excites no sympathy in me whatsoever! Hope they enjoy their side of heart disease with that =p

I find it really pathetic if you actually judge someone because of that. Why does it even matter??? Why not try getting to actually know a person instead of making judgments based on what they wear and eat. This sounds like freaking high school.

Ok and just to comment on the comment above me - no one asked for your sympathy. It's sad there is a choice of only disgust or sympathy.

The only time I get annoyed is when people complain about being fat and than settle down with unhealthy takeout.

Um, who said I don't know their personalities? They're my coworkers. I know them very well. Some of them are friends... friends with bad self restraint, but still friends. But this whole topic is about eating habits, and what's gross is gross.

Question: I am fat, and on a diet, but once in a while I allow myself some junk food so I don't go crazy from all the carrots...how do you know your coworker with that junk food isn't doing just that?

I only go out for lunch once or twice a month, but sometimes I make an unhealthy chioce...i thought that myabe people judged me, but now i know I should be embarassed...and now i feel worse about myself than ever. And if I am eating healthy, i suppose people are saying "it's about time?"

I like to try and figure out what kind of eaters people are by their food choices. No other reason except that I am nosy.

Well I know it isn't an occasional thing because a) they eat junk every single day I work with them and b) they're fat.
If you need to take a break from carrots by eating fast/junk food, you're doing the "healthy" food thing wrong.
Eating healthy doesn't mean starving yourself or eating celery and salad all the time. If you were doing it correctly, you'd be satisfied and happy. Taste buds and cravings adjust if you eat healthy, natural foods so that soon, it will make you sick to even think about crappy, over processed foods. Tis a beautiful thing.

foxie,

i do eat a healthy balanced diet (now, but I have a lot of weight to lose), and while I am trying to get out of my bad habits by starting good ones, sometimes a girl just wants a big juicy steak, a greasy cheese burger with some fries, or pizza. I don't think my taste for those 3 things will EVER go away, nor do i want it to.

cravinsugar: 5 guys' fries are the only fries i let myself eat! they are SOOO good and they are made with real potatoes and the seasoning is SOOO good and omg i want some

haha Tidalwave! I know! Last week at a meeting a lady came with a 5 Guys soda cup...I have been jonesing for a little bacon cheeseburger and some fries ever since! I am waiting though until Next month...when i get paid and can afford to go out lmao lmao...plus by then i should be a few pounds lighter!

Wow. I am AMAZED at how judgmental some people are about other people's food. Are they forcing you to eat it? Then who cares? I personally have much more important things to worry about at work than what people eat.

Holy cow, am I glad I don't work with foxie!! I get annoyed with my coworkers when they eat really smelly things, since smells make me sick to my stomach, but other than that IT'S THEIR OWN BUSINESS, NOT MINE.

As for "your cravings adjust," I call bullsheet. I eat healthily, I work out decently, I'm at a super healthy weight for myself. But frankly, today, I couldn't survive without eating that miniature (~1"*.5"*.25") dark chocolate hershey's candy. I didn't know that meant that I was doing the whole "healthy foods" thing wrong if I have an occasional craving! Thank goodness I have wise people like foxie to let me (and cravinsugar) know how wrong we must be!

I work in a large open plan office with hundreds of people on each floor ... so we have to be pretty considerate when eating at our desks. But we do snack a lot and have loads of cake days! Cake always smells lovely ... anyways back to the point, I do notice what my co-workers eat, but I don't judge them by what they eat! That would be weird ...

Allow me to point out, that I said if you're taking breaks from eating CARROTS (or salad, celery, whatever) by eating junk food, you're doing it wrong. You should be eating healthy food that satisfies you enough that you don't feel the need to eat crap.
Anyways, while you're whining that you can't train your tastebuds, here are some interesting sites you may want to look over... alternatively, you could actually try to look for this information yourself.
http://www.weightladder.com/2008/07/16/retrain-those-taste-buds/
http://www.livescience.com/health/061120_ap_taste_health.html

Do you ever judge someone because they're loud in public? Rude? Have bad hygiene? Curse a lot? Dress too young/weird/skimpy? Anything? Because unless you're just the poster child for non-judgement, I'd think twice before pointing the finger at ME because I judge people based on their choices that they make for the world to see. Chances are, so do you.

Luckily we dont have lunch in the office, but this woman who used to work in our office would get soup from the cafeteria every day and stink up the entire office. It was disgusting. I mean I cant really breathe through my nose, but the smell of the soup would make my nose flair up. I dont like when co-workers slurp or crunch, its so nasty.

i'm totally with foxie!

i work in an office with all girls, all good friends of mine, all trying to lose weight, all somewhat overweight....and of course, all they eat is chipwagon, wendy's, dairy queen, fried crap fried crap fried crap....they do it every day, and i DO judge them!

last summer, when i finished school and started working there again, i used to eat with them and then one day i decided to join Weight Watchers. i lost 35lb, and they all are obsessed with how i look now, and how "skinny" i am, and want to look like me, etc. (it's not like i'm pick thin, but i'm thinner than them now)...and yet they still get junk every single day...and they JUSTIFY it somehow...

true stories:
a) getting a blizzard in the afternoon because they ate mcdonalds for lunch and so they're already being "bad" so they may as well be "really bad" by getting ice cream for dessert
b) not going to the gym at lunch so she could get mcdonalds because her diet was starting the next day so she needs to "be bad while i can"

yah, like thats a BAD ATTITUDE and i dont want to hear about how you want to lose weight when this is the way you act

We don't judge each others food choices. I love 5 guys and treat myself to a little hamburger with mayo, lettuce and ketchup. Speaking of which, I may get one today. I do skip the fries though.

foxie and followers should read this: http://www.fitsugar.com/1803821 I believe this would be the healthier out look on food....just my opinion though

Yeah, cravin. That's nice for people who are healthy. But my coworkers definitely are not, and from you've said neither are you.
I posted a reply several hours ago with some links regarding retraining your taste buds... because it's a truth, not a theory. Whether it gets posted or not, who knows... but you could always look it up for yourself.
ALSO in case it doesn't get posted, I'd like to point out that unless all of you are completely innocent of judging people based on their choices (which you aren't), you really shouldn't act like you're so different than me.

foxie, why are you so intent on attacking cravinsugar? Cravings are NORMAL. You can't eliminate them all. And how dare you tell her whether she's healthy? You don't know her. You probably haven't seen her in your life. That's flat out hateful.

I can't imagine being so terribly insecure that you have to judge people on the internet and decide that you're better than them because you're skinnier or (per your own definition) healthier. What a sad life that must be.

My coworkers on diets eat like crap. (Pudding cups? Really? I didn't know anyone over the age of 10 ate those! It's kind of quaint) I don't judge them, but I do offer input when they're trying to make decisions. Yesterday, they were going to Wendy's. They asked me what the healthiest options were. Instead of fries, they all got either salads or the mandarin oranges, per my recommendation. One of them took the top half of the bread off her burger. The key in this is to try to help people, not to get a sense of satisfaction from being better than them.

foxie, not trying to say i am different from you, but when i do think to myself "does she need that" I also take into consideration other things, including my own body and how I would feel if someone thought that about me, and then i mentally scold myself for it. All you do is continue to look down your nose.

On another note, i will say every morning someone walks by my office with their breakfast on their way to their own office...i don't know who it is, and i don't know WHAT they are eating, but it smells like body odor...and every morning, i suddenly freak out until i remember "it's not me, it's their food" lol. the first day i literally put my nose to my pits because it is so strong and fragrant...then i realized it was food, and every morning like clockwork...10am rolls around and here comes the stinky pitts food...

I haven't said anything about her that she hasn't already said herself. I have no idea what she looks like or how in shape she is, but AS I SAID, I'm lead to believe she's unhealthy based on what she's written right here in this thread.
Also, I've never said someone has to completely eliminate cravings. All I said is that if you need to take a break from CARROTS to eat JUNK food, it's wrong. You should be eating healthy food that doesn't leave you starving and running back to your old eating habits.
You're really just looking for something to tick you off, and it's causing you to misquote me and try to make something out of nothing.

Thank you chatondeneige . In about a year, once all the weight I have to lose is gone, girls like foxie will want to hate me even more...because i am actually quite pretty in the face and well endowed, and I will be, to put it mildly, completely hot once I am at my goal weight , AND I will still be eating the occassional piece of pizza or burger, because you CAN still do that and be healthy!

Do not start on chatondeneige foxie. to be honest, what you have been saying hasn't been matter of factly it has been with a sort of undertone that I thought I was reading into, but I am obvi not if someone is picking up on it. Of course, how can anyone expect you to see that what you are writing could be considered hurtful when you are always right and everyone else is always wrong? That must be a tiring job, knowing everything.

Cravin, I can see where it would come off like that, but this is a thread about food and eating habits. It's not like I'm talking about this in some thread on CasaSugar. I'm just staying on point.
We get sweat smelling food in the office sometimes too, but it's not as bad as the butt stink food that occasionally rolls through. Those get me looking on the bottom on my boots for dog poop.

It's so immature to revert into the You're-a-Bully mode just because I have an opinion. No one wants to hate you because you're overweight, that's such a stupid thing to assume. I think most people want a general, nation-wide slim down. We're rooting FOR you, not against you.

I agree, your opinion is your opinion. But I must be honest...as someone who has struggled with their weight a while and bad habits, if a coworker were to glare at me for a bad food choice, or a person stare at my stomach on the train and refuse to sit next to me, that doesn't make me slim down...it makes me sad, and as a result I want to comfort myself with food. I know this is unhealthy, and right now that is what I am changing (i am instead comforting myself with purchases lol) but it isn't as easy as "eat healthy, make good chioces, exercise daily, lose weight" it's like changing who you are in a way, esp if, like me, the person has been struggling with it for years. So, say a person that usually eats bad everyday at your office, finally brings in something healthy. You should comment on how that looks delish or something. Even if it's only once a week. that once a week may turn into twice a week, etc, until the person is only being unhealthy once in a while. It takes small changes a bit at the time, not big ones all at once, which is what I have learned. I brought in a bag of carrots and light ranch dressing. delish. just as one of many snacks. I didn't really like carrots, ranch is the only way I could eat them...now I like them plain, and look forward to munching on them. It took me 4 WEEKS to get to this point. In fact, the carrots just sat there for 1 week and i was like i really don't want carrots. But here i am, almost a week in a row of nothing but healthy choices and while I am hungry all the time, i am not deprived, I eat about 1500 calories a day, and for the most part, it's all good for me.

I am not trying to change your mind, but I want you to see that yes, they may complain about themselves and everyday make bad choices, but if instead of constantly noticing the bad choices you notice when they make a good choice and perhaps acknowledge it, you are helping more than you realize. A kind word goes a lot further than none at all. If they are like me, the only words they reallly get are at work as I live by myself and while i talk to people on the phone, it isn't the same as having someone in person notice i am doing something good and telling me so.

I don't really judge my co-workers' food choices, but it does annoy me quite a bit when they bring food that they KNOW stinks (fish, weird spices, etc) with no consideration for those around them.

Hmm, I wonder if I should feel bad for eating sushi at my desk. Then again, my former boss used to do it too as well as another woman whose office is pretty close to hers, so I don't feel bad about it. Besides, I try to limit my smelly lunch food choices to once a week or eat away from my desk.

sushi doesn't smell strongly of fish does it? I mean, it hsouldn't...if it does you ought not to be eating it lmao

Well thank you cravin. I really appreciate hearing the other side of the matter when it's given to me in a mature and non-emotional way. I will try to focus more on the positive things they eat and maybe bring in healthy foods to share more often. See what I mean about the carrots (and other veggies)? They start tasting good after a while. It was the same way with me when I started to eat more vegetables- at first I had a real aversion, but now they're yummy (especially asparagus).

I agree lol, veggies to become more delish the longer you eat them, but I have to admit...i do crave the other things too lol !

Usually I dont care, I am not the food police. If people want to be unhealthy than go right ahead

I do care however when some women complain about their health, thier wieght, the size of thier clothes, or even comment on how skinny I am and ask me "how to get that skinny" and I tell them....eat better and exercise, and they just ignore me, and I see them finishing off an entire medium dominoes pizza with Wings on the side, dipped in ranch. In my head i say "its not rocket science as to why you are overwieght"

I'll be honest, I do judge, but ya know, when I get the "Is that ALL you're going to eat?" and "I could never be vegetarian b/c you just don't get enough protein" and "I used to be skinny when I was your age" it irritates the hell out of me.

I eat five times a day, I'm not vegetarian b/c I eat fish (and most people are eating too much protein), and I AM NOT THIN JUST BECAUSE I'M YOUNG. I work my ass off (literally) to stay this size, so don't be so dismissive.

At least I keep my thoughts to myself while I get crap for eating fruits and veggies and these same people are eating fried chicken and donuts and talking about the latest diet pills. I think I'd be less judgemental if people didn't feel that they had the right to comment on what I eat.

This is completely ridiculous. Not all people who eat junk food WANT to be healthy/lose weight, and I know from personal experience that sometimes you just say you are when you're around obnoxious people who are clearly judging you. And even if they are, it's their choice and as long as they haven't asked you to be their personal trainer/dietitian then get over yourself and let them eat what they want in peace. It already is weird enough to be eating junk food in front of a bunch of healthy people without knowing that they're all judging and gossiping about you as soon as they finish their salad.