It's finally the big day and you've had a tight grip on your BlackBerry all morning in case of a wedding emergency. You're about to meet up with your bridal party for brunch so you can give them their gifts, and when your phone rings you expect it to be the florist saying all of your flowers are dead, or your mom asking for a lunch-spot recommendation. As you greet your Maid of Honor with a smile, you tell her you have a call and peek down at who is trying to get your attention on your wedding day. She sees your smile turn into open-mouthed astonishment paired with an appropriate eye-roll because that phone call is from your boss. Your MOH tells you not to even think about picking up the phone but you hesitate. Find out how I would handle this situation when you read more.
Even if you've tied up all of your loose ends before your wedding, emergencies do happen. Instead of ignoring the phone call and having to face your boss when you return from your honeymoon, go ahead and answer the call. You don't want to have the thought of a confrontation lingering while you're on your stress-free vacation with your new husband, and you definitely don't want her to have the impression that you don't respect her enough to answer her calls.
Your boss may simply have a question that she forgot to ask before your vacation time started and didn't want to bother you while you're on your honeymoon. But she may be calling with a legitimate emergency and want you to pop in to the office or handle an issue from home. If it is an issue that requires immediate attention, ask your boss to call one of your co-workers that you know will be able to handle it as well as you would.
As much as you may want to lash out at the audacity of asking you to do work on your wedding day, bite your tongue. Politely tell her you're sorry, but you've planned every minute of your day and won't be able to help her this time. Reassure her when you say that you've planned in advance for every controllable situation and remind her that you've arranged for colleagues to cover your responsibilities. Although you probably ran through the details before you left, let her know again exactly who she should contact in case of specific problems so she's not tempted to dial your number during your honeymoon bliss.
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That is so crazy, what is sad is that I know a few bosses that would do just that but for me personally I wouldn't even touch the phone.
1it wouldn't be a problem because not only will they not be invited to the wedding, the phone won't be available. if you can figure out how to solve the emergency sounds like i should be your boss!
2i agree with you kcwebgirl!! you are absolutely right! and anyways why would you have your cellphone on anyways. everyone that matters to you the most should know that you are getting married today!
3Why would you answer the phone?! Its your wedding day, enjoy it. Then send an email out or call the next day before you leave for your honeymoon, apologize for not being near your phone due to wedding chaos, and ask if there is anything you can do to help before getting on your plane.
4My husband was working with a law firm on a trial (as their trial tech) and they knew months in advance that he was going to have to leave to go get married, and that he would train his replacement.
The night before we were supposed to fly to our wedding location, the lawyers LOST IT on him, and gave him a guilt trip about leaving and told him that he couldn't. He essentially told them that not going wasn't an option, and he was sorry but he trained his replacement and they would be fine. They just wanted HIM.
Later, they called to apologize and said they had overreacted. And they sent us a nice wedding gift. BUT, they did call us at 8am in the morning during our honeymoon for a non-emergency. Pretty disgusting.
5I wouldn't even have my phone on me!!!
I would never answer it, sorry. I think it's beyond rude to call you on your wedding day. Unless you work for the CIA and it's anational emergency I think anyone's work place can make due...
6I dont give 2 sh*ts on any given work day, let alone a day when I'm not working.
I would just hit ignore. Send that sh*t to voicemail. And then delete the message before listening to it and going on my honeymoon. Future confrontation or not, that wouldnt stress me in the least. Some people need to learn to let go.
Serious, who gives a sh*t?? Only an idiot would call a person the day of their wedding if they arent invited.
7Wouldn't happen (thankfully) I am in sales, some other sales person could cover.
Plus my boss would be invited, and whould know better
8well considering i could give a rats *ss abotu my current job- they could deal with out me lol
9Sorry, I laughed hard at this question. I think I would answer for the satifaction of telling them no. Bad I know but
10if he kept calling i'd answer it and tell him to call someone else or figure it out some way. if he's my boss he should know more about than i do!!
11Oooo bella good point! That would be fun!
12I wouldn't answer the phone. But it wouldn't matter because my boss would never, EVER do this.
13i wouldn't touch the phone either!
14i would wait for the voicemail and listen later on
That would earn a verbal "F U!" from me as I stared at the caller ID. I would not pick up.
15This sort of happened to my mom. She was brand new at the post office and had a HORRIBLE supervisor (she has since been fired). They made my mom come in early and case mail for other carriers because they were going to be short. She was scared she'd be fired if she said no (this lady had basically done that to others before) so she went in a 4am so put up mail. poor momma
16HAHAHAH If this happened I would probably answer the phone (that is if I actually had time to answer it for someone other than my wedding party of the planners) JUST to say "Go F&^% Yourself" because why and who in the world would someone call on someone elses wedding day knowing FULL well that they are getting married and will not have time for work crap. Yuck, some people are so ignorant.
17Luckily I don't think this would ever happen to me.
I'm a graphic designer. I'm having a hard time imagining a "graphic design emergency".
18I would answer because I LOVE my boss, but he would never even call me on my wedding day- unless it was to ask directions to the church!
19I honestly don't know if I would answer a work call on my wedding day. I probably would because I'm nice. Like pp, I would hope they could figure out how to get something done.
20Umm.. HELLO!! We have voicemail for a reason Id let it go to voicemail then listen to it later. Its my WEDDING DAY.. Unless someone has died, or any other life threatening disaster is happening im not returning any work calls!
21I wouldn't answer the phone under any circumstances.
22Sorry, I don't care what company you work for or how much money you are making because a boss like that can go screw it. No job is worth that kind of attention on a day as special as a wedding day. A great boss, if they're not already attending your wedding, would not even think to plague a bride or groom with work details. I would hope my supervisor possess some level of competence if I left her all the work and material needed to cover 2 weeks and well-written instructions.
23i would laugh, and then quit.. i am 25 years old. what the hell do i know how to do that my boss doesn't? if i actually answered it, i would also let her know i will be needing a raise since apparently, i am highly skilled, and in high demand.
24I had a boss who would do something like that just because she was a b*tch... I would have told her to EFF off... My current boss wouldn't dream of it. He'd figure it out without me.
25I wish my design firm didn't have graphic design emergencies... we have them all the time! My boss wouldn't call on my wedding day, though.
26I'm incredulous that someone would actually demand that of anyone! Unbelievable! Forget being afraid that you'll lose your job... they should be concerned that they just lost YOU as an employee! Unless I happen to be some sort of highly skilled and irreplacable surgeon, I'm not answering my phone on that day.
27I would be too busy to even ignore the call even, let alone answer it.
28I wouldn't even think about answering the phone!!!
29I wouldn't answer. As a lawyer, I know it's likely I'd be called if I worked in a firm (luckily, I don't) because that's what lawyers in firms do to junior attorneys and support staff and then they all laugh about it afterwards.
I'd basically let it go to voicemail which ought to have a message saying I'm unavailable because I'm getting married and off to an undisclosed place for the honeymoon. I'd also give names of people to contact while I'm away.
30I would probably answer it on my wedding day.
But not my wedding _night_.
LOL
31I'd answer. I'll be getting married out of town so luckily I wouldn't be able to go into the office anyway, but I really, really doubt they'd ask that of me. I'm a corporate accountant so these things do come up, but I'm also not senior enough to be irreplaceable in 99% of conceivable situations. Nothing that can't be resolved with a short phone call anyway, especially if I left everything in order before taking leave.
I think it's a bit off to ignore the call. It'd probably just be some small thing - it might take you 30 seconds to resolve, but what if not doing so causes a real hassle to your boss? Yes, it's Your Big Day, but the whole world doesn't stop for it. Answer, even if just to politely explain that you're simply not able to deal with any work problems today.
32Yeah I'm sorry but on that day I didn't have a clue where my cell phone was and let me tell you I did not care! I had so much on my mind and my boss knew that well in advance, and was extremely understanding. I simply could not work in an environment that asked me to make emergencies even on one of the most special days of my life. Family is a number one priority to me.
33No job in the world is so vital they cannot find coverage unless you are the only person in the world who can do it. Even doctors can go on vacations and have on-call covering MDs so in my opinion there is absolutely no reason to be expected to do work on a day you prepared for and gave them advance notice for. I would not answer.
34It's sad, but this happened to me. During my rehearsal dinner my boss called to say that our entire office staff had quit that afternoon. He demanded to know if I was going with them. If not, I needed to be in the office on Monday. Not only did he not take no for an answer, but he tried to throw the new office keys into my bouquet as I was walking down the isle the next day. Needless to say, I had to cancel my honeymoon and show up on Monday. I worked 12-15 hour days for months trying to straighten out all the problems the girls had left behind. It eventually led to the end of my marriage. To this day I still regret missing my honeymoon. I would never make that mistake again. On the other hand, it was a definite sign as to how the marriage would go and should never have married him in the first place.
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